Grief is weird. Everyone handles it differently, and that makes gifting after a loss feel… complicated. You want to be supportive without saying the wrong thing. The good news? A thoughtful gift can quietly say, I’m thinking of you when words fall short.

Here are three tips that can help you choose something meaningful:

1. Focus on comfort, not “cheer.”

Grief is heavy. The goal isn’t to brighten someone’s day - it’s to bring them comfort in small, honest ways. Think calming scents, soft textures, or gentle rituals: tea, candles, cozy socks, a soothing bath soak, or even a snack that says, “take care of yourself today.” A thoughtful gift doesn’t need to fix anything (because it can’t), it just needs to care.

2. Add something personal.

If you’re sending a sympathy care package, include a handwritten card that reflects your real voice. Skip the formal “with deepest condolences” line and say something like, “I’m thinking of you. I know there’s nothing I can say to make this easier, but I hope this brings a little comfort.” It’s okay to sound like you - that’s what makes it meaningful.

3. Remember, timing matters.

Most people send something right after a loss, which is beautiful—but the support tends to fade after the first few weeks. Sending a sympathy box later, once things get quiet, can mean even more. It’s a small reminder that they haven’t been forgotten.

If you’re not sure where to start, we’ve curated a collection of Sympathy Gifts that feel personal, thoughtful, and quietly comforting - because sometimes the smallest things say the most.